Adults with children playing in the park, eating at a restaurant,
mingling in any gathering gives one image - they are a small or big
family, comprised of parents and kids and tons of fun. To some, this
could be a picture of envy and they would give anything to have their
own, or could mean a dawn of reality that marriage and having babies is
not easy, and of which is rearing kids is a big thing and with it comes
great responsibility. Unknown to these people, the real challenge
parents could be facing is dealing with a difficult child.
Raising a human being from a baby to an adolescent is not always roses and tinted glasses. There comes times where your patience and love will be tested to its limits, and you may unknowingly hurt them or shout at your dear ones. The difficult ones will probably be the formative years - from baby years to the early years of toddlerhood. There was a reason why they say that two and three are the "terrible years" and could go on counting. They will do anything and everything possible to test you and to challenge your authority, from throwing uncalmable tantrums and shrieking fits, to refusing authority and failing to obey simple rules and instructions. It is during these worst scenarios that most parents seek guidance, they seek answers to why their child is behaving this way for they would want to feel less guilty of not being able to handle it themselves and not becoming the perfect parent they wanted to be. For new parents or those expecting moms, or have a difficult kid or toddler in mind at present, the next question would then be - how can I prevent these stressful situations, or what should I do or not do in times of crisis?
Keeping a difficult child in check is not a cut and dried approach. The parents know their child's moods and triggers best. What is important is that you need to be in control all the time and not lose it in anger. Calm down and do not do things that you may regret in later times. Remember that they are not doing it to deliberately annoy or anger you, your child needs guidance on how the world and their feelings work, and teaching them to sort it out and deal with their emotions may be one of the best things to impart with your precious one. - By Paul Anthony Beard-
Raising a human being from a baby to an adolescent is not always roses and tinted glasses. There comes times where your patience and love will be tested to its limits, and you may unknowingly hurt them or shout at your dear ones. The difficult ones will probably be the formative years - from baby years to the early years of toddlerhood. There was a reason why they say that two and three are the "terrible years" and could go on counting. They will do anything and everything possible to test you and to challenge your authority, from throwing uncalmable tantrums and shrieking fits, to refusing authority and failing to obey simple rules and instructions. It is during these worst scenarios that most parents seek guidance, they seek answers to why their child is behaving this way for they would want to feel less guilty of not being able to handle it themselves and not becoming the perfect parent they wanted to be. For new parents or those expecting moms, or have a difficult kid or toddler in mind at present, the next question would then be - how can I prevent these stressful situations, or what should I do or not do in times of crisis?
Keeping a difficult child in check is not a cut and dried approach. The parents know their child's moods and triggers best. What is important is that you need to be in control all the time and not lose it in anger. Calm down and do not do things that you may regret in later times. Remember that they are not doing it to deliberately annoy or anger you, your child needs guidance on how the world and their feelings work, and teaching them to sort it out and deal with their emotions may be one of the best things to impart with your precious one. - By Paul Anthony Beard-
